Take the First Step to Embrace Your Heart’s Desire

The words change or reinvention for many can seem very scary. Especially with menopause, The Change is downright scary. Why change if I do not need to, many people ask? When I truly desire that something new in my life – a reinvention or transformation, change is necessary. Fear of change causes paralyzes, stopping all momentum toward reaching any goal. A woman in menopause does not have much choice but to take her courageous and curious self and to lean into what is calling her. She surely does not want to get stuck in of all those uncomfortable menopausal symptoms.

The biggest hurdle in a most cases is moving through the fear and taking that first step. When I take that first step the fear begins to quiet and more energy is provided to address the steps that follow in process.

Let’s look at fear. It holds you in the past in a comfortable awkward kind of way. If change is not made when it is needed, stress will result and more and more of what is not wanted develops. Fear makes the unknown of what might happen very scary. Fear engages the emotions and mind and convinces the mind not to change. How can these fears be quieted? Johnathan Fields, a master of reinvention, in his TED talk discusses reframing fear into fuel by asking questions concerning your fears to quiet them. These questions include: what will my life look like if I change and do not like it, what happens if I do nothing, and what happens if I succeed and like the change? By answering these questions, clarity is gained, a plan begins to unfold, and that fear-filled inner voice quieted.

Human potential speaker Carly Fiorina states that courage is acting in spite of fear and that having a vision of something worth striving for is imperative. Create a vision for this change. See it and feel the reinvention that you desire. With that vision in mind, take that first step. Act in spite of fear. If you do not like the result, there always are other acceptable options. However, if you love the results, even better. Imagine the joy that it would create.

Taking that first step provides the knowledge and experience that it really is not that scary and you can do it. It makes it easier to continue to create the desired changes as more options of what might bring joy are explored. This experience will make it easier to take that first step for the next makeover on the list.

Life is not meant to become stagnant, but to change and to flourish. Your life can be opened in new positive ways just by taking that first step. Why live life in a bubble of stagnation, when you can live it fully and embrace all that it has to offer.

Dawn Fleming http://www.energytransformations.org

 

Menopause: A Time to Reinvent Yourself

Menopause has been called the change of life. It is called that for a reason. There is not only physical changes going on within you, there are also calls for change in other areas of your life being called for within. There are many ways that you can reinvent your life. Sometimes reinventing your life occurs because change is forced upon you such as menopause, losing your job, divorce, or the children leave home. Other times reinventing is a choice. However, nothing changes in our life if we do not embrace the process of change. You may ask, where would a woman in her wise years begin this quest to reinvent herself?

One step for reinventing yourself is to identify the change that you want to make and align yourself with the change. Sit down with a pen and paper. Ask yourself what areas of your life do you feel calling you for change? Write down everything that immediately comes to your mind. Is there a theme? If there is, label what this theme is. It might be career where you are being called to do something else, or a theme might be health, changing your diet and adding exercise and supplements.

When you see the theme that is unfolding, think about all the possible positive outcomes that can come from these changes. Sit back and close your eyes. Take your time to imagine what your life would look like as it is being reinvented in the way that you want it to be. Let the images unfold to support the theme that you wrote down on your pad. See yourself in this state of total reinvention in areas of your life that you chose.Imagine it, feel it, see it coming into being in all areas of your life for the better. Feel your energy levels increasing to support the joy that comes with your reinvention.

Take the words from the visioning exercise and create a vision statement for the desired changes.

A vision statement provides:

  • a road map
  • a focal point to create momentum to change
  • prioritization around what actions are truly important and needed
  • a manifestation of the heart’s desire

It could be a couple of sentences. These statements should be written as if the changes are already happening. Add the desired results into your vision statement along with the how it will feel to have it completely manifested.

Example: Theme – improve health. My vision statement – I restore my health and well-being through: making healthy choices when I eat, add juicing into my diet, commit to daily exercise, meditation, and yoga. My transformed self, is 15 or more pounds lighter, fit better into my clothes or even a smaller size, have more energy, feel less stress, and enjoy life more fully. I look and feel amazing! I am truly happy.

Post your vision statement in your purse, on your refrigerator, at work, all over the place. Write the vision statement and begin taking the appropriate steps to align with it. Taking that first step is very important and can be a powerful catalyst for more positive change. The fun is just beginning!

Dawn Fleming    http://www.energytransformations.org

Tips for Reducing Stress Part 1

In today’s world all you have to do is turn on the television to increase stress and anxiety levels. Stress is a part of our lives but we do not need to let it get to levels where it makes us sick, depressed, or paralyzes us with anxiety. Researchers have found that stress is the root cause of a lot of diseases and a lot of physical and emotional flare-ups.  As a life coach and holistic health consultant, I have found that there are many simple things that we can do to lessen our stress and anxiety levels.

Get a good night’s sleep. Sleeping 7-9 hours a night reduces stress and anxiety. It gives us a good foundation to emotionally and mentally deal with whatever comes our way. Many people have problems falling asleep, myself included. I have found that magnesium supplements, melatonin,  and EmergencZZZZ  help me to fall asleep and stay asleep.

Go outside in nature. The act of being in nature and appreciating all the beauty around us diminishes stress. Go outside and take in the beauty of the trees, mountains, water, birds and the sky. Where I live there are beautiful mountain views in every direction. The sky is amazing with the clouds lightly floating around. Go out, be a part of something so wonderful that stress melts away. When you connect with the earth, your internal rhythms begin a restoration process and stress is diminished.  Connecting with Mother Nature might also restore your vitamin D levels and help you sleep better.

Pause and take five to 10 slow deep breaths. In the throes of mounting stress, panic or anxiety, deep breathing will interrupt your mind from increasing the stressful thoughts and will get more oxygen to the brain, which is always beneficial. Taking longer, slower breaths connects us with a profound part of ourselves and restores our mind and emotions into a more peaceful place of awareness.

Give up worry. Dr. Wayne Dwyer tells us to let go of worry in his book Your Erroneous Zones. After reading this, I questioned if I could do this since I had perfected the art of worrying. It is so easy after watching the news to create an immense worry mindset. Worry creates more stress, increasing anxiety. Most of what we worry about never happens. I slowly shifted out of the worry mode and my outlook on life improved greatly.  Stress and anxiety diminished.

Create reminders. We all make choices on how we are going to respond to and be in life. Under my clear cellphone cover I have a list of words that are how I want to experience life – love, peace, kindness, compassion, humility, and gratitude. When I pick up my phone I see these and they remind me of how I really want to be. The first day I placed them under the clear cover, I had a heated discussion with someone on the other end of the phone. I kept looking at the words thinking, there is another way to approach this situation. By staring at the words, I was able to calm down. If you do not have a clear cell phone cover, post a word or words on your computer, television, phone, refrigerator, etc. to support your alignment out of stress and into a life that is centered in peace and delight.

Life is too short to be overtaken by the stress and anxiety viruses. Practicing a few or all of these steps will help you debug your mind and emotions of stress and move you into a world of beauty and joy.

 

Tips for Reducing Stress, Part II

In the Spring newsletter I wrote Tips for Reducing Stress, Part 1. You can read that article here. When we reduce stress, we strengthen our physical body, find clarity and peace. We become more present and find more viable solutions to those stressors. With less stress, we have more energy to do the things that bring more joy. With that said, here are some more tips for reducing stress.

Learn to meditate. Meditation has a lasting calming effect. Studies show that it reduces blood pressure, calms the nervous system, creates clarity of mind, and a deep sense of inner peace. Meditation is easy to learn and can be practiced almost anywhere, anytime.

Get creative. When we engage our creative side, stress melts away. Draw, paint, write, build! When we express our creativity, the anxious, stressed out energy is quieted. Our mind is focused on bringing something to life instead of on thoughts that create turbulence.

Forgive. Forgiveness allows us to let go of past scenarios that increase stress levels every time we focus on an old story. When we do not forgive we keep the negativity from the past alive and create on-going stress. Forgiving yourself and others releases heavy energy that we have been housing within our mind, heart and body. Forgiveness offers freedom and it creates lasting peace.

Movement. Yoga, Tai Chi, Qi Gong, dancing, running, biking and walking are all great ways to let go of pent-up stress energy stored in your body. Some movements strengthen our body and mind, while others create more joy in our life. Movement is anti-aging, raises our energy levels, and reduces stress.
Laugh. Laughter is the best medicine. Stress cannot be in the same place as joy. Find people that make us laugh and laugh with them. If you have a lot of friends that focus on stressful things, it might be time to find new friends. Also, there are plenty of videos on YouTube that will make us roll with laughter. Joy is infectious. Share joy with others and put an end to stress altogether.

Many years ago I was focused on a negative situation. The stress of focusing on it all the zapped me of my energy. It was quite depressing to say the least. I realized that this was not my normal way of being in life and I did not like the hole I had dug down into with the constant stress-filled thoughts. I just wanted to scream, “Get me out of here.” It really was a turning point in my life. Wanting to have a different experience and to find my joy for life again, I embraced all of the tips that I shared in these two articles. Over several months, my life turned around and I found real happiness that continues to support the life that I desire.

The only person that can help you to reduce or get rid of stress is you. We cannot point our finger at others and blame them for our stress. When you point a finger at someone there are four more pointing back at you. Pick one or several of these recommendations to begin letting go of your stress. You will love the lasting long-term effects of a body and mind that feels and expresses peace and calm. If you get stuck, find a good life coach to help you step through the process of empowering yourself!

Dawn Fleming, Soul Life Coach and Reiki Master, www.energytransformations.org